Apr 9, 2010

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4 Thoughts on Simplifying Your Life from the Last 2500 Years

4 Thoughts on Simplifying Your Life from the Last 2500 Years

One of the most important things I have done to improve my life over the last year or two is to focus on letting go of many things and to simplify.

Doing this of course nothing new, these concepts have probably been with us for many, many thousands of years. So today I’d like to share a few of my own favourite thoughts about simplifying your life from the last 2500 years.

1. Focus on what is most important for you. Let go of the rest.

“The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak.”
Hans Hofmann

“Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.”
Lin Yutang

“The sculptor produces the beautiful statue by chipping away such parts of the marble block as are not needed – it is a process of elimination.”
Elbert Hubbard

There are many things you can let go of. Both on the inside and the outside. I have for example let go of some busy work on the outside. I have greatly decreased the number of times I check email etc. each day and I have learned to use very short to-do lists with only 2-3 of the most important items instead of a dozen items or more.

On the inside I do my best to let go of trivial and petty stuff. I let go of negative stuff. I let go of trying to control the results of my actions. I let go of information and old self-images that don’t serve me anymore. I always remember – or remind myself via the white board on my wall – to keep things extremely simple.

You can read quite a bit more about letting go in the last chapter of my free ebook, The 7 Timeless Habits of Happiness. But I’ll mention a small and effective tip for letting go right here. First accept that you are for example stuck in focusing on something trivial. Then let it go. Don’t try to just reject what you are thinking or feeling because that will only make it harder to let it go.

By doing all this elimination on the inside and outside there is more room, time and energy for me to use for the most important things. And that makes life so much more interesting and fun.

2. Express yourself in a simple way.

“My aim is to put down on paper what I see and what I feel in the best and simplest way.”
Ernest Hemingway

One of the trickier things about social skills is to get your message across. One reason why people have difficulty with this is because they use more words than needed.

Now, sometimes that can be a good and enjoyable thing. Sometimes it’s just a way to feed your own ego and keep the spotlight on yourself for as long as possible. A lot of the time I think it can be useful to simplify and try to use fewer words.

Why? Well, it makes your message clearer and makes it more powerful emotionally because it’s focused. Keeping it shorter and more focused also makes it less likely that people will simply become bored with what you are saying.

So, how do you keep your word count down?

  • Be aware and alert. Just being aware of your problem can help you to stop the talking before it becomes excessive rambling.
  • Focus outward. Babbling on too much is also, at least in my opinion, something that often comes from being too focused inward and on yourself in a conversation. If you instead focus more outward you’ll be less self-conscious. This reduces nervous and slightly nonsensical babbling. And if you focus more outward, on the people you are talking to and less on your own glorious voice and golden words you’ll be more aware of what you are saying and how the conversation is going. If you focus on the other people you’ll be more focused on getting through and more attentive to the reactions you bring out.

3. A simpler life is one way to a happier life.

“Reduce the complexity of life by eliminating the needless wants of life, and the labors of life reduce themselves.”
Edwin Way Teale

Society is to a large degree built on getting more.

To a degree this can be useful. But it may not be the thing that will solve all your problems.

You may not find your answer or happiness in more. It may just alter your troubles and problems. And/or give you more of them. What is already there inside of you perhaps gets highlighted and magnified when you get more. Instead of getting whatever you want when finally making all that money your wanted you may find that greed, jealousy and selfishness within you and in your world increases.

You may have thought that when you finally arrived at that place your problems would just disappear. But the ego wants more and is never satisfied.

So trying to fill your life and yourself up with more – money, stuff, power, smartness, prettiness, a feeling of being more enlightened than others – and then finally becoming happy may become like trying to fill a bucket with a hole in the bottom.

By simplifying and letting of a craving for more you can make your life happier and easier.

4. Get a life to create a simpler life.

“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”
Confucius

“Simplicity is an acquired taste. Mankind, left free, instinctively complicates life.”
Katherine F. Gerould

Why do people make life more complicated than it is? Well, one answer may be old habits that you need to let go of and replace.

Another answer is that your life isn’t really that exciting. So you add drama and complications to make it more interesting and stimulating. That’s at least what I used to do in the past.

But instead of doing that you can take the more difficult path and actually get a life.

If you find yourself sitting around too much and not having enough to do then it’s very easy to get stuck in thought loops and go into a downward spiral. Simply by filling your life with more fun activities and people you become a lot more relaxed and have little time or patience for complications or drama from yourself or others.

So spend less time analyzing life and more time living and exploring it in whatever way you’d like. By doing so you are also often confronted with having to expand your comfort zones and perhaps face a fear. This leads to better self confidence and less fretting about if you can handle things that may come up.

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Copyright 2006-2010 Henrik Edberg.

Written by Henrik Edberg

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  1. The older I get, the more I see how living a simpler life is so important.

  2. Sietse | HowToLiveWow.com says:

    It’s fascinating to see how nowadays, we believe that our life unfolds and that we’re too busy to notice, while the lack of awareness has always been present. Now, a hundred years ago, a thousand years ago :)

  3. Great tips! I’m afraid this is easier said than done for me. But I guess I have to rid of the negativity first, huh? But I’ve read about keeping it simple a lot of times over different blogs and while I think it’s a great advice, I always always find the time to worry over trivial matters and simple issues. But I do my best. No one changes over night. I have yet to master at least one calm evening of my week like what this blog http://sn.im/uxpn3 said.

  4. Henrik Edberg says:

    Thank you for all the feedback and added insights! :)

  5. Henrik,
    Great post, Life is simple, easy and enjoyable. It is just that we have free will and we are allowed to make it as complicated as we want.
    All the best,
    Boris

  6. Jennifer Hedrick says:

    What an amazing article… I’m on my way!

  7. Sherri Frost | Self Hypnosis says:

    I’ve spent the last year simplifying my life. Somehow I had found myself with too much going on. Things are much easier and much more enjoyable now that I am focusing strictly on the things that I find meaning in and to pay closer attention to my intuition.

  8. Susan Liddy says:

    Thanks so much for your reminder about simplicity!
    Gosh, life is so much easier when we let go, focus on the good stuff and appreciate the simple things.

    :) Susan

  9. Cheryl Paris says:

    Hello Henrik –

    We all need to follow ’simplicity’. Simple living and high thinking.
    I somehow wonder sometimes why people like to make things complicated. Well there is no flowchart or algorithm to a perfect life. One learns as they live it or exist it.
    In geometry – perpendicular is the shortest distance and hence we should figure our short and sweet rules to live our life.

    Bye for now,
    Cheryl

  10. Nacho Jordi says:

    Great post, and great comments, too. “Express yourself in a simple way” is something that I can certainly use. I usually overcomplicate things with people, maybe because I am afraid of asking for things and I get nervous. In those occasions where I have had the guts (or the luck) to cut it down to a neat, simple sentence, it has usually worked like a charm.

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